Personal Development Archive

This blog is specially dedicated for your personal development (PD) journey. Personal Development is the journey that everyone should embark on to live a meaningful and happy life.



The road to become an entrepreneur

It was a lifetime experience for my journey to become an entrepreneur. Having spent 2 weeks upgrading myself (shopping) and brainwashing (reading business and entrepreneur books), I am finally ready to register my company on 15th May (which according to my parents are good day for business after checking the Chinese Calendar).

It was also a good day because it marks the end of my 4 years being an employee. I started my first job on 16th May 2005.

 

I woke up at 8am, all energized to face the d-day. I took the public transport to PWTC and reached the SSM at 10am. There are a lot of people waiting already.

 

I told the counter that I would like to register as a sole-proprietor and was handed a form to fill up.

 

The process was easier and smoother then I expected. I got my queue number (after completing the form with a copy of IC), went to the counter to check the name of my company, YFS Consulting, got approved, wait for another 15 minutes for payment and then another 1 hour for my certificate to be issued.

 

During the 1 hour, I went to survey the pricing of printing business cards upstairs and had some breakfast.

 

By 12pm, everything is done! My company is YFS Consulting!

 

What was more memorable next was I sat down with a designer for the next 1 hour to design my company logo and my business cards. It’s really much easier when you know what you want!

 

I proceed to print my company stamp too. So by 1.30pm I am all set to tell the world about my company!

 

It was a life changing experience for me as I took the road to entrepreneurship even though I am not sure whether I am going to make it.

 

One thing for sure is I will do my best and grab the opportunity that came along the way, accept challenges and failures as the process to success, pick up the sweet as well as learning experience in the process.

 

I know I am on a mission J

 

 



Winning is Giving - Denis Waitley

Winning is giving your best self away

Winning is serving with grace very day

You’ll know that you’ve won when your friends say it’s true

“I like who I am, when I am around you. You look for the best in the others you see and you help us become who we’re trying to be.”

                            

Winning is helping someone who’s down

It’s sharing a smile instead of a frown.

 

It’s giving your children a hug by the fire

And sharing the values and dreams that inspire.

 

It’s giving your parents the message “I care.”

Thanks, mom and dad, for being so fair.

 

Winners are willing to give more than get

Their favors are free, you’re never in debt.

 

Winning is giving 100 percent

It’s paying your dues, your taxes, your rent

It’s trying and doing, not crying and stewing.

 

Winners respect every colour and creed

They share and they care for everyone’s need.

 

The losers keep betting that winning is getting

But there’s one of god’s laws that they keep forgetting

And this is the law you can live and believe

The more that you give, the more you’ll receive!



Winning is Giving - Denis Waitley

Winning is giving your best self away

Winning is serving with grace very day

You’ll know that you’ve won when your friends say it’s true

“I like who I am, when I am around you. You look for the best in the others you see and you help us become who we’re trying to be.”

                            

Winning is helping someone who’s down

It’s sharing a smile instead of a frown.

 

It’s giving your children a hug by the fire

And sharing the values and dreams that inspire.

 

It’s giving your parents the message “I care.”

Thanks, mom and dad, for being so fair.

 

Winners are willing to give more than get

Their favors are free, you’re never in debt.

 

Winning is giving 100 percent

It’s paying your dues, your taxes, your rent

It’s trying and doing, not crying and stewing.

 

Winners respect every colour and creed

They share and they care for everyone’s need.

 

The losers keep betting that winning is getting

But there’s one of god’s laws that they keep forgetting

And this is the law you can live and believe

The more that you give, the more you’ll receive!



Enlightened Self-Interest

I am sorry I have not been writing lately, by just getting an easy way out by posting some good articles (I hope you benefit from that though J).

 

I have been busy working, spend some time to read (after all, I really buy the idea from my favourite author, Mr. Jim Rohn “Work harder on yourself than on your job”J) and thinking, thinking and continue thinking and planning, planning and continue planning. I’ll be MAD (hopefully it’s Making A Difference) soon if I don’t take actions. The challenge is taking actions need willpower!

 

Today I am going to share with you a piece of my mind, unfortunately not written by me but by Mr. Jim Rohn. Have you ever read something and realize that what it said reflects so much about what is going inside your mind? This is the article as I read, my mind keep saying “Yeah, right!”, “Yeah, that’s how it is!”

 

In the coming months, watch out for my articles:

1)     What is your ROI?

2)     Great expectations

3)     ‘I have a dream’

 

Everything is in my mind but I just keep postponing the time to write and share with you ‘a piece or a few pieces of my mind’.

 

Hope you’ll enjoy this article and be ‘enlightened’ as much as it has done to me. Please read till the end.

 

Enlightened Self-Interest by Jim Rohn

 

Enlightened self-interest leads to wealth. Selfish self-preservation leads to poverty. Somebody says, “ I can’t be concerned about other people, I can only be concerned about myself.” Well then, you’ll always have to be concerned about yourself. Somebody says “ I can’t be concerned about other people’s bills, I’ve got enough worries trying to pay my own”. Well then, you’ll have to worry about them for the rest of your life. The best way to get that monkey off your back is to turn your attention to other people.

 

Once I understood this perspective, it revolutionized my whole life. Self-interest is necessary, of course. But here’s what self-interest must be if you truly want to be happy: it must be enlightened. Don’t keep your attention only on yourself if you want your life to work out well. All the possibilities of greatness – great wealth, great reputation, great satisfaction – come only if you turn your attention from yourself to others.

 

In your own self-interest, be enlightened. Truly act in your own self-interest by making an investment in service to others.

 

If you wish to receive, you must give. Some people say, “if you give, it’s gone.” That’s not true if you’re educated. If you’re foolish, yes, it’s gone. But if you’re enlightened, chances are if you give, you’ve invested. What do we expect an investment to do? We expect it to return multiplied…bigger, better, greater.

 

When I was young, my father taught me an important lesson. He said, “Son, always do more than what you get paid for.” Some individuals might argue with that. They say “no, you’re going to mess up the whole program.” I know they’re wrong. In my own self-interest, I did what my father taught me… I always did more than I got paid for. Why? To make an investment in my future. And it’s paid off for me.

 

If you’re wanting that big promotion, you can’t go up to your boss and say, “Just give it to me. I’ll work harder if you just give me that promotion.” It doesn’t work that way. You’ve got to do more in your current position to get noticed. You need to stand out from everybody else. That way, your boss will say, “You know, we’ve got this position opening up, and I think we should give it to Nancy. She does so much more than we expect. Just imagine what she’ll do if we give her this promotion!”

 

You’ve got to do more that you’re paid for. It’s an investment in your future.

 

It’s one thing to make a sale. If you make a sale, you’ll make a living. If you go beyond making the sale by providing exceptional service – keeping in touch, calling your clients before they call you, writing thank you notes – sales will lead to multiple sales. You can make a fortune if you take good care of the customer. People who are well taken care of will open doors you can’t get through by yourself.

 

All of us have found ways to make a living. What was interesting for me early on was to figure out ways to make a fortune. You may say, “Well, Mr. Rohn, how could I deserve to make a fortune?” It’s easy. Render fortunes of service. People will do things you cannot believe for those who give them good service.

 

Here’s one of the greatest gifts you can give to anybody: the gift of attention. In return, they will do extraordinary things for your career. They will take you by the hand and lead you to more people that you could meet by yourself. Always do more than you get paid for.

 

You see, life responds to deserving, not need. Life was not designed to give us what we need. Life was designed to give us what we deserve. Once you understand that principle, your life will change.

 

The ancient law does not say this: “If you need you will reap.” It doesn’t work that way. A lot of people out there are hoping it works that way, but it doesn’t. The ancient law says this: that if you sow, if you plant, you will reap. Somebody says, “Well, I really need to reap.” Then you really need to plant. Your own self-interest needs to be educated in how to plant. You must know how to do it so everybody wins, because life just doesn’t respond to need.

 

You can’t go to the soil and say, “I need a crop.” The soil just smiles at you and says, “Don’t bring me your need, bring me some seed. Bring me some effort. Bring me some discipline. Bring me some interest. Bring me some service. Bring me these things, and I’ll return them to you multiplied.” You can’t come with need. You’ve got to come with seed. You’ve got to come with willingness. You’ve got to come with skills.

 

You’ve got to be willing to learn, to change, to grow, to make an effort. You must be willing to stand up to the bad weather, to pull out weeds, to nurture. That’s the only way you serve others. And that’s the only way you get a return. Everybody wins with enlightened self-interest.



Purposeful Selling by Jill Helwig

Do you remember when you were in school (or maybe your kids were in school) and the school would have a fundraiser?  They would ask the children to sell something with the enticement of a grand prize?  I LOVED those!  I was the excited 2nd grader who gladly, even eagerly walked door to door throughout my neighborhood asking my neighbors to buy a magazine subscription, wrapping paper, candles – anything! -  to support my school.  But what I really, really wanted was to win those cool prizes they offered in the catalog– you know, the giant candy bar, the new bicycle, or my personal favorite – a $100 bill!!

I asked my mom what she thought drove a seven-year-old to walk blocks and blocks, selling to people she didn’t know.  My mom informed me it was all about the recognition and the prize! As Zig Ziglar says, “Personal recognition is the #1 motivator of people.” Even as a little girl I could relate.

Today, though, after 17 years selling in the corporate world, personal recognition is much less important to me than it used to be. I will always enjoy the recognition, but what has taken the place for me is the feeling I get when I know I am selling with a purpose.

My mom continued in her reminiscing by telling me that I was always quite passionate about the products I sold. Whether it was candy bars, greeting cards, pre-need cemetery lots (yes, I actually sold those in college), Kirby vacuum cleaners – the product really didn’t matter much. What mattered to me was whether or not I could believe in it because it did something great for my customers.

How long has it been since you asked yourself if you really, truly believe in what you are selling?

•    Is your personal purpose aligned with what you are selling?
•    Does the solution you sell correspond to your personal values and belief system?
•    Do you believe selling this product/service will make a positive impact in the personal lives of those to whom you are offering?

Years ago, I made it a point to make a difference in my career. I now experience so much fulfillment in my personal life because I know I am making an impact in my work. Here are a few questions you can ask yourself to determine if you are truly “selling with a purpose”:

1.    Does what I am selling evoke an emotional response in me? Am I excited and do I have conviction about my solution?
2.    What is my personal purpose? How does my career/work fit into that purpose?
3.    Is it really possible to make a difference in my work?
4.    How can I consider ways to move beyond my own personal recognition to concerning myself with the needs of the nations?

I know – to the cynical types this may sound a bit unrealistic – a bit too “pie in the sky.”  However, I would challenge you to look around at the truly great salespeople.  Those people who have made a name for themselves, not only in their company but perhaps on a regional or national level.  My mentor, Zig Ziglar, has spent his career selling us on the proud profession of selling.  What makes that profession so noble?  We are problem solvers; we have a purpose in what we sell.

You know…nothing ever happens until we sell somebody somethin’ – so we’ve got to believe in what we’re doing. You will be amazed at the job satisfaction you receive when you know you have helped someone else get what they want. Sound a little familiar? Again, I am paraphrasing Zig Ziglar when he says, “You can have everything in life you want if you’ll just help enough other people get what they want.” And if that is your purpose, there is absolutely no way you can go wrong. Just a reminder: Personal recognition – the kind that lasts – will be rewarded long after the sales meetings are over and the awards are handed out. It will come when a customer becomes a client and says, “Thank you – you made a difference. You sold with a purpose – and it changed my life.”




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